Now don’t get me wrong there are many, many important things we need to teach our children, compassion, gentleness, kindness, lifeskills, cooking, overcoming adversity, etc etc
In this modern world, a world of technology, a world where terrible things happen daily, a world where sometimes it’s more important what you look like than what you say, where peoples self esteem is based on clicks and shares. Where split second decisions are made based on looks and brand choices.
Movie and music stars carry more sway than teachers and lecturers! A Snapchat star can earn hundreds if not thousands by endorsing a certain product.
People lust after the latest and greatest gadget.
We are all trying to fit in. Trying not to be the one that stands out. I know from personal experience this doesn’t work in the long run.
As a parent I’ve seen that look of joy on my kids faces when either Mrs OMG or I praise them. We all seek approval, initially from our parents, then friends, co workers and even strangers. In todays connected world this search for approval is magnified. We become obsessed with likes, shares and views. A hundred hearts on an Instagram upload gives us that feeling of approval.
Our kids see this, no one wants to be the one that is different, that stands out! From an early age children see different as bad, movies and T.V. shows nearly always have a character who is different and therefore either the butt of jokes or friendless. The villain is normally different.
We should be showing our children that different is good. To embrace the things about themselves that make them different that make them unique.
Big business spends millions every year persuading us otherwise, that we should wear certain clothes, smell a certain way use their phone or drive their car. That by doing this we will be popular and happy.
True individuality is rare, but like a perfect diamond it should be admired and encouraged, in my experience true individuals are happy and content.
I for one try my hardest to ensure that my kids know that they don’t need to fit in, that they can be who they want to be. Like what they want, listen to the music they want and wear what they want.
What do you think?