Between Football, Hurling and Karate we rack up quite a few training sessions each week for the boys.
When the eldest started he used to insist we stay and watch him. I think this was more to do with separation anxiety than a desire for us to see how well be was doing!
When they started football training I watched the first years worth of training as it wasn’t worth driving back home.
I then agreed to help coach their teams.!
After a few seasons this became unworkable, as with most parent coaches I found the boys were complaining I was being too hard on them and their team mates too soft! Can’t win eh!
Since we moved 3 years ago and they have joined new clubs I don’t watch them training.
When Buddy started Karate he used to ask me to stay. After a few weeks I would wait in the adjoining room. Now he’s happy for me to go and come back when training is over.
There are a few reasons I don’t watch them training.
- I found that it was off putting to them. They would be looking at me and not paying attention to the coach.
- You can’t help “encouraging” them! Again off putting as that is what the coach is there for!
- They need to have time to learn appropriate behaviour without a parent correcting them.
- It gives us something to talk about. I enjoy hearing from them what they learned or how the session went.
We go to as many matches as possible, to cheer them on. It amazes me how many parents don’t go to any matches. Even finals! Sometimes it’s not possible with 3 matches on a Saturday.
What do you think? Do you watch your children at training and just go to matches? Can you watch and stay silent?